Due to quite a few recent situations, and not just one, I wanted to repeat this piece related to The Country School value compassion that I first wrote in 1997:
A simple message this week … Please think carefully as you help your children decide the “invitation list” for out of school activities. While, yes, it is probably a fact of life that no one will be invited to everything, leaving a few out of an event to which most are invited is unnecessarily hurtful and inconsiderate. When planning parties or the like, children learn the best social lessons when events are designed to be either totally inclusive or very small. Children need the benefit of parental guidance, discussion, and modeling in these matters.
The Country School’s position on this is very clear. In the Parent’s Directory and Handbook we state:
“Unless the entire class or all the boys or all the girls are invited, please do not send your child to school with invitations to parties. It is particularly hurtful when only a few children are excluded. It is good for children to learn that exclusion of a few is inappropriate and insensitive. Although we would like all children to be included in individual parties, when this is not possible, please be sensitive to everyone’s feelings when issuing invitations. If all the boys or all the girls are not included in a party, you may not depart for the party from the school.”
Some may say that children need to learn they won’t be invited to everything. They do, but they need to learn this gently. Given our small community, we could make this learning as humane as possible for our children if all parents would follow these guidelines and never plan on leaving out just a few. Parents firmly need to be the decision makers in these situations, not the children who are hosting the parties. In the case of very small parties, being left out may still hurt, but it’s easier for children to understand if they are not among a small handful that has been excluded.
Unfortunately, this is an issue that seems to need attention every year. But if parents banded together, we could indeed change our children’s world — albeit simply here at The Country School.
Kindergarteners have been participating in a 3 part HOHO (Helping Others; Helping Ourselves) project lead by Ferris and Laura Butler. Students packed boxes to be shipped to veterans and their families. The boxes
were filled with child friendly, donated items. Also in the boxes were handwritten letters from the students along with a handmade American flag craft. The Butlers carefully orchestrated this project, and we are very grateful for their time and efforts.
Congratulations to all our spring athletics award winners and to all our Cougar athletes who participated in sports and clubs! This spring, TCS offered Boys’ and Girls’ Lacrosse, Pickleball Club, Running Club, and Volleyball Club. Providing so many athletic opportunities took a village—thank you to our amazing coaches, volunteers, and parent drivers for making it all possible! And thank you to our students for setting an example of dedication and sportsmanship!
The Country School is proud to be celebrating its 90th school year. This milestone year also marks the beginning of a new chapter with the appointment of Jay Parker as the 7th Head of School.
The Country School, Talbot County Free Library, and the Avalon Foundation, sponsors, join with fourteen other community organizations to present Conversation & Homecoming with Carole Boston Weatherford and her son, Jeffery Boston Weatherford, a program free and open to all.
The Country School does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, religion, age, gender, nationality, ethnic origin, or sexual orientation in the administration of its educational, admission, and employment policies, or its financial aid, athletic, and other school administered programs.